Love uniquely expresses our deepest bonds with each other. We might differentiate the types of love.
One type of love is loving an object or desiring to possess it, such as I love that car. We can also love people as an object of possession. This type of love is toxic to humanity, turning it into a selfish manipulative act.
A second type of love is codependent love which is expressed as an addiction to control or being controlled. This love prevents self growth, independence and genuine fulfillments.
A third type of love we could call romantic love. It is a search for the perfect mate that is imagined having the qualities you lack. This drives a wedge between the “essential self and the imagined deficient-self” as well as the “essential other and the imagined perfect mate”.
The next is subjective love it is an expression of a state of lovingness. There are no ulterior motives, no objects of material value to be acquired. The person who usually experiences this love is usually without defensive armor. This love is freely given and received; loving many people and love returned by many people. Not only human beings but all of nature, the environment and the universe are experienced in a loving way and we live more in harmony with each other and nature. This is the most healing and healthy type of love we can experience.
Another type of love we experience is beyond its objective and subjective forms; we basically become love. Living in an acquisitive society, we are deprived of this experience. We may sense it at times if we live in a different mind set where there is no duality of any kind and we all become one with the universe. It would mean we would be living in a different state of consciousness than we are now, but this state is achievable without sacrificing our humanity.
