When we act out or tell someone off there is some relief for the moment, but it doesn’t last. If we surrender and drop the story line, there is tenderness under all that harshness. By being kind to ourselves we become kind to others, done properly it benefits everybody.
Reading books can help and give you a deep theoretical background of things but true understanding of life should start with an experienced teacher plus you must wholeheartedly take up the activity and practice it diligently to really understand things.
Realize that all things change, then there is nothing you will try to hold on to. You cannot control the future; you might as well relax into it and accept it no matter what it brings. There is an ancient tale that says whatever happens, you look at it without judgement and say, “some good some bad”.
To accomplish large undertakings, you should start off with a plan and small goals. The accumulation of these small steps will eventually lead you to the completion of the larger task. If you have a modest attitude, you will be able to find able helpers to assist you.
Quote: When unexpected changes occur look for the opportunity it brings you.