Negative shame is accompanied by guilt and self denigration. It is pointless and no help to us, in fact it will cause us harm. Positive shame is when we have harmed ourselves or anyone else and feel sorry for having done so, this allows us to grow from our mistakes.
Being free is not doing what you want. Animals do things instinctively and by example and are free of the interference of the self. To go beyond self, self-cultivation and training will enable you to reach the ground of deep intuition and the freedom that it affords.
If you want to reach a state of knowing, you cannot do this by solely striving for it to benefit yourself. This state of knowing can only be achieved by practicing undiscriminating virtue and service, this way the ultimate subtle truths and inner knowing will follow.
All diversity can be harmonized, no matter if it is between family members or society or nations of the world. The clue lies in your attitude, if both sides are willing to come together in sincerity and truthfulness, no problem cannot be resolved.
Quote: To live life fully you must have patience with yourself.